The Answer Is Always NO!

Quick story about my last trip to San Diego for my quarterly meeting.

After wrapping up the second day of my mastermind sessions with the group

of fitness professionals from across the country.

I went out to dinner with the group in Mission Beach.

After a nice meal and great conversations about how we are all very similar but yet extremely different.  I was on my way back to the hotel by myself.  Now the Pacific Beach/ Mission Beach area is safe and has a very vibrant night life.

At any given time there can be thousands of people walking the street from bar to bar.

Well for some reason there was a pocket of no foot traffic as I passed a pretty old run down motel.  You know the kind I’m talking about, 2 story, peeling paint, sign that says office, vacancy sign with a few burned out lights, think Bates motel with a view of the ocean.

As I was walking by a door slammed from the second floor.

It obviously caught my attention because of the quiet of the rest of the motel.

I turned to see a middle aged women standing at the rail looking down upon me.

“Hi,” she said with a smile.

I responded, “hello.”

“You looking for a good time?” she asked

I am no fool, I knew what she was eluding too.

So, I asked if she had any spring break specials?

Joking, now come on that’s funny.

“No thanks, just had a good time.”

“I show you better time,” she replied.

I did not respond at this point, just continued on my way back to my hotel.

What is the significance you ask of my brief encounter with a women of the night.

Well, I thought to myself how easy it was for her to ask, but if she doesn’t ask her business venture doesn’t reap the profits that she needs.

Now don’t get me wrong I don’t condone her profession but I admire her gusto to just throw out her sales pitch and negotiation.

She takes the approach that the answer is always “NO” unless she asks.

So, how does this apply to you?

Well where in your life are you not asking the question that you need to?

Is it at work?  Do you want to make more money?  The answer is NO unless you ask.

Is it in your relationship?  Maybe you would like to take a couples class together, but you don’t ask, the answer is NO.

Maybe in the chance of a relationship?  You want to ask someone on a date, but you don’t ask, answer is NO.

Somewhere in your life there is a question that you want to ask someone.

But you don’t.

Your fears of rejection or failure hold you back.

In turn you end up with regret

The old wish I would’a….

Never will you regret the chance you took.  In the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take.

My challenge to you this week is take that chance

Ask that question you have been putting off

The answer will always be NO if you don’t ask.

coach “Ask away”  Doug